There Is No Roadmap: Q&A with Jake Fehling ’02

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It’s a life that was one full of sitting out on the front bench of the house or playing basketball with his brothers. Today his life is full of soccer practices, bedtime stories (wrestling) and various entrepreneurial ventures including his current work with a recruiting firm. He wouldn’t have it any other way. Meet Brother Jake Fehling ’02.

You have quite an entrepreneurial career. Take us through the journey.
Actually, I have always worked for a variety of organizations, most of which were large, sports-related not-for-profits, including the USGA and USA Baseball. I joined KFA Search in 2012, which is very much an entrepreneurial venture by my aunt (Kathy Fehling). I've enjoyed learning from her the last several years. I've always had an appreciation for entrepreneurs, and I've had that bug for a while, starting Shirseys.com a few years ago and supporting various start-up groups in the Raleigh area.

What are you fondest memories of being a brother of NC Delta?
While the events, tailgates, etc. were great, my fondest memories were just sitting out front on the bench, or playing basketball out back. Having everyone together, dunking on them and talking a little trash was a blast. Sorry fellas.

What would you say are your life’s biggest successes? Biggest learning?
My wife and three kids. I went way over my skis when I got married, and our kids look like her, so, yeah, no question there. Every day I learn how to become a better husband and father. There is no roadmap. It's a learn-as-you-go adventure, and I'm just trying to not mess it up.

What about your membership in SigEp UNC makes you the most proud?
The work we did in the community and the variety of events we held at the house. We hosted other fraternities and sororities as well as a concert each year that brought in a very diverse group of students. I'd like to think that we were widely considered a very open and welcoming fraternity, something I hope the current membership can still claim.

If you could go back and relive one SigEp moment, what would it be?
Slugfest 2002. So. Much. Sand.

Tell us a little bit about your life and interests.
I have to go back to my family here. My life is now dominated by soccer practices and bedtime stories … and by stories I mean wrestling. I have two boys (six, four), and all they (we) do is wrestle. My daughter is almost two, and she is easily my favorite. Page and I watch way too much “Bachelor”/”Bachelorette” (no shame). I've been called a beer geek, and I'm a social media and fantasy sports nerd. I’m excited about how we're growing at KFA Search, both in the RTP area and now in Charlotte, since our family's recent move there.

What advice would you give the younger you?
Take more risks. I feel like I've done pretty well and made good choices, but I wish I wouldn't have always taken the easy route professionally.

What do you want people to remember about you 50 years from now?
That I was the best Sig Ep hooper ever. Kidding. That I was a great dad, husband and person. Simple, really.

As a corporate recruiter, would advice would you give your younger brothers about finding a job.
For entrepreneurs, take risks and make the leap. For those looking to climb the corporate ladder, pay your dues and don't expect handouts or a huge promotion immediately. Bottom line: work your tail off, surround yourself with good people, put together a personal Board of Directors, read voraciously, and network like crazy. Networking can be such a daunting and intimidating word, but really, it's talking to people, finding common connections, showing genuine interest and then staying in touch. Many of my early jobs came from asking for "informational interviews" with my superiors during internships right after school. My most recent job came from peppering my aunt with questions about her career at a recent family reunion. Networking comes in all shapes and sizes!

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